Advent Daily: Practical Strategies for Empowered Parenting
December 19, 2016
Day 19: Mind your Words
Once you have spoken, even the swiftest horses cannot retract your words. -Chinese Proverb
Of course, the behaviors we model for our children are incredibly powerful. As they say, "Actions speak louder than words." When we consider things like learning styles and Love Lanuages, however, for some, words can be exceptionally powerful. When we utter hurtful words to anyone, but especially children, because we are distressed, it is crucial to follow up and own the emotions we were feeling at the time of our words and be accountable for saying something hurtful. We apologize. And, in doing so, we model the act of asking for forgiveness when our emotions take control and we do something we regret. We also show our children that we are human, and that we, too, have emotions, and we use it as an opportunity to teach appropriate ways of expressing ourselves.
So words can be a big deal when our emotions are involved. This is where self-care comes into play. Caring for ourselves allows us to be prepared for the difficult moments and remain mindful. Our words are powerful in other ways, too. In short, every interaction we have with our children is crucial. Our words convey meaning. How often do we say things that aren't really what we mean?
Speak often to your children and choose your words carefully!
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